Why Do I Undermine Decisions After I Asked My Team To Make Them

Before you correct the next decision, ask the person who made it what they were trying to accomplish. Give them enough time to explain. You may discover that they were working toward a different result from the one you had in mind.

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Drawing: two people reviewing a shared board of work.

Ask what the decision was meant to accomplish

Take a hypothetical home-organizing business. The owner returns to a finished job and finds matching baskets across the top shelf of a child's closet. The room looks beautiful. The person who did the work is pleased with it. Then the owner asks how the child will put the toys away, and starts moving the baskets down.

Now someone has to redo work they thought was finished. The owner wonders why this needed explaining. The employee wonders why a job that looked so good has become a problem. Both wanted to do good work. One was looking at the finished room; the other was thinking about what would happen after the family had lived in it for a week.

That difference gives them something useful to discuss. What is this business helping a family accomplish? A beautiful room is part of the service. So is being able to find the school shoes and put away the toys without a parent having to do it all.

Explain the purpose through the people you serve

A shared mission gives people a purpose to return to when they have a choice to make. In this example, the owner might say, “We help busy families set up homes they can manage in the middle of an ordinary week.” That sentence gives the employee a reason to ask who will use a space, what they need to reach, and what they can put away themselves.

The wording can take some conversation. You may know exactly why you started your business and still find it difficult to explain that purpose to someone else. Start with the people you serve and what you want to help them do. Describe it the way you would to a person sitting across the table from you. If your first attempt takes a paragraph, work through the paragraph. You can shorten it once you understand what needs to stay.

Then bring it back to a decision. In the organizing business, would a row of beautiful baskets still be a good choice if the people using them could reach them? Of course. Would lower, open bins be better for this particular child? The purpose helps the owner and employee consider the tradeoff together. They can discuss appearance and daily use with the same family in mind.

Keep the purpose consistent as the methods develop

The way you go about the mission can change, but the mission should be consistent. This business might organize a room for a family, work alongside them, or teach them how to maintain it. Those are different ways of helping them manage their home. The service can develop as the owner learns more about what families need.

That also makes room for someone on the team to have a better idea. If the owner has only explained how she likes the baskets arranged, the employee has a pattern to copy. If they have discussed what the family needs to be able to do, the employee has more to work with. A different arrangement may serve that purpose better than the owner's original plan.

There are still practical limits. A shared purpose needs agreed standards, enough time for the work, and clarity about which decisions a person can make. An employee who understands the mission may still need training or permission to change the agreed service. When you review a decision, find out which of those pieces was missing before you decide the person failed to understand the business.

Review one decision together

Use one decision you recently changed to find out whether you were aiming for the same result. Ask the other person what they were trying to achieve. Explain what you were trying to protect. Then work through what you would each do next time, and why. Listen for the reasoning. Two people can use different words and still understand the same purpose.

If you work alone, you can do this with two commitments competing for your time. Put them beside the purpose you have described. Consider who each one helps, what it would require, and whether it takes your business toward the work you want it to do. You may find that an appealing opportunity needs to wait while you finish the work you have already promised.

In that family's home, the useful test comes after the organizing business leaves. Can the child get a toy, play with it, and put it away? Does the parent have one less thing to manage at the end of the day?

When the people doing the work understand the difference you want it to make, they have a better basis for deciding how to do it. The next conversation can begin with what would help that family, and the owner can listen for an idea she might be glad someone else had.